“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” sounds great on a greeting card, but the reality of a long-distance relationship can be tough.
The late-night cuddles are replaced with late-night calls, and spontaneous dates turn into meticulously planned virtual hangouts.
It’s a unique kind of challenge, but also a unique opportunity to build a connection that goes beyond physical presence.
In this article, you’ll discover eight actionable ways to feel closer when apart, reignite the spark, and keep your relationship thriving, even across the miles.
Get ready to transform distance from a roadblock into a stepping stone for deeper intimacy and connection.
1) Prioritize Scheduled “Date Nights” (and Make Them Sacred)
Think beyond the quick phone call. I’m talking about setting aside dedicated time for each other, just like you would if you were physically together.
Get creative! Plan a virtual cooking class together, watch a movie simultaneously using a synced streaming service, or even play online board games.
The key is consistency and making these dates a priority. Reschedule them just like you would if it was an in-person date.
During these dates, avoid distractions – put your phone on silent, close your laptop, and give your partner your undivided attention.
These regular check-ins cultivate predictability and reliability, critical components of a robust intimate relationship, no matter the distance.
2) Embrace Sexting and Dirty Talk
Long-distance doesn’t have to mean a sex life on pause. But sexting can be a fun and exciting way to maintain physical intimacy and build anticipation for your next visit.
Don’t be afraid to get creative with your words and describe what you’re thinking, feeling, and wanting. Share fantasies, use suggestive language, and be playful.
Even sending a simple, “I can’t wait to see you” with a steamy emoji can make a big difference. Remember, sexy talk is more than just what you say; it’s about the intention and the connection you create.
Embrace the distance as a challenge to explore new aspects of your sexuality together through words.
3) Send Thoughtful Care Packages
Who doesn’t love getting a surprise package? A care package is a tangible way to show your partner you’re thinking of them.
Fill it with things that remind you of them, inside jokes, their favorite snacks, or a small, meaningful gift. A handwritten letter is a classic touch that always adds a personal and intimate element.
I remember when my partner was away for a few months, I sent a box filled with his favorite coffee, a cozy blanket, and a book by his favorite author.
He told me it made him feel so loved and connected, even though we were miles apart. This simple act of kindness reminded us of our shared history, and reinforced how much thought we put into each other.
You see, the value of a care package lies not in the monetary worth of its contents, but in the thoughtfulness and care you put into assembling it. This tangible expression of affection offers a comforting reminder of your presence in their life.
4) Stay Connected with Daily Check-Ins
Regular communication is the lifeline of any long-distance relationship. However, it’s not just about the quantity of communication, but the quality.
Make an effort to have meaningful conversations that go beyond surface-level topics. Share your hopes, dreams, fears, and everyday experiences.
Ask open-ended questions and actively listen to your partner’s responses. Even a short, heartfelt check-in can make a big difference.
Discuss topics that help you build emotional intimacy, such as your goals, childhood memories, or values. These deeper dialogues foster a sense of closeness and connection, even when physical presence is lacking.
5) Create Shared Experiences (Even Remotely)
One of the challenges of long-distance relationships is the lack of shared experiences. But don’t let that stop you!
Find ways to create shared memories, even from afar.
You could read the same book and discuss it, take an online course together, or learn a new language. Even watching the same sunset and sharing photos can create a sense of togetherness.
These shared experiences not only create new memories but also strengthen your bond and give you something to look forward to discussing.
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.”
6) Plan Future Visits (and Make Them Exciting)
Having something to look forward to is crucial in a long-distance relationship. So start planning your next visit as soon as possible.
Talk about what you want to do together, where you want to go, and how you want to spend your time. The anticipation can be just as exciting as the visit itself.
When planning visits, be realistic about your budget and schedule. Create a detailed itinerary, but also leave room for spontaneity. During the visit, make an effort to be fully present and engaged with your partner.
Put away your phone, avoid distractions, and focus on creating lasting memories. Consider using a tool like the 100 Movies Scratch Off Poster (affiliate link) to plan some movie nights in advance!
7) Embrace Technology (But Don’t Let It Replace Real Connection)
Technology is a powerful tool for staying connected in a long-distance relationship. Video calls, messaging apps, and social media can help you feel closer and more connected to your partner.
However, it’s important to use technology wisely. Don’t let it replace face-to-face communication or real-life experiences. Schedule regular video calls where you can see each other’s faces and connect on a deeper level.
And remember, it’s okay to disconnect sometimes and just be present with yourself. Set boundaries around social media and messaging to avoid feeling overwhelmed or constantly tethered to your phone.
Discovering ways to enhance your virtual intimacy will improve your relationship.
8) Trust, Honesty, and Communication: The Holy Trinity
Trust, honesty, and communication are the cornerstones of any successful relationship, but they are especially important in a long-distance relationship.
Because you are not physically together, it’s easy for doubts and insecurities to creep in. Be open and honest with your partner about your feelings, and trust that they are being honest with you.
Communicate your needs and expectations clearly, and be willing to compromise. If you’re struggling with trust issues, consider seeking professional help.
Keep in mind that trust is earned over time through consistent actions and words. Invest time in building open communication and being honest with your partner.
Long Distance Love
Long-distance relationships require dedication, effort, and a willingness to be creative.
By implementing these eight hacks, you can feel closer when apart, maintain intimacy, and build a strong and lasting connection, no matter the distance.
“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”
Alexandra Rivera is a passionate educator and advocate with over a decade of experience championing sexual and gender equality. With a background in sociology and gender studies, Alexandra has dedicated her work to promoting inclusivity, understanding, and empowerment for individuals of all identities. Through education, storytelling, and advocacy, she strives to break down stigmas and foster a world where everyone feels seen, respected, and celebrated. She is also a self-proclaimed artist channeling her creative side on pottery and sketching.
