The right words, delivered with confidence, can transform an ordinary encounter into an unforgettable experience.
So, let’s dive into the world of verbal expression and discover how a few well-chosen phrases can ignite the passion in your relationship.
1) “I Want You” – The Power of Direct Desire
Sometimes, the simplest statements are the most effective. “I want you” is a direct, unambiguous expression of desire that can be incredibly potent. It cuts through any ambiguity and makes your intentions crystal clear.
It shows your partner that you are attracted to them and eager to connect. This phrase works because it’s both vulnerable and confident. It acknowledges your own desire while also affirming your partner’s desirability.
Try saying it with a soft, breathy voice or whispering it in their ear for maximum impact. Don’t be afraid to add to the phrase to make it fit the moment. You could say, “I want you so badly right now,” or “I want you all to myself tonight”.
The possibilities are endless and personal.
2) “Tell Me What You Want” – Invitation to Fantasies
Turning the tables and asking your partner what they want is a fantastic way to encourage them to open up.
“Tell me what you want” is an invitation to explore their fantasies and desires. It shows that you are interested in their pleasure and willing to go the extra mile to fulfill their needs. This phrase can lead to exciting discoveries and deepen your understanding of each other’s desires.
It can also create a sense of anticipation and excitement as you wait to hear their response. As a certified sex educator, I often encourage couples to explore new fantasies together. One partner could say, “Tell me, what do you secretly desire?” to see where their head is at.
3) “I Love It When You…” – Positive Reinforcement
Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool in any relationship, and it’s especially effective in the bedroom. “I love it when you…” lets your partner know exactly what actions you find pleasurable and encouraging them to repeat them.
This phrase helps create a positive feedback loop, where both partners feel appreciated and encouraged to explore. It also helps you communicate your desires in a non-critical way.
My partner and I once found ourselves in a rut, and it was difficult to be intimate. After a few weeks of feeling down, I decided to make sure I would give him positive reinforcement in the bedroom.
I told him, “I love it when you take your time and explore my body, I feel so desired.” From that day forward, our intimacy felt so much better.
By letting him know that I wanted him to keep doing what he was doing, I was also making myself feel better, and that allowed me to open up more during intimacy.
4) “You Feel So Good” – Sensory Appreciation
“You feel so good” is a simple yet powerful way to express your appreciation for your partner’s touch.
This phrase focuses on the physical sensations and lets your partner know that their touch is pleasing to you. It’s a direct way to communicate your enjoyment and encourage them to continue what they’re doing.
It also creates a sense of intimacy and connection by focusing on the shared experience of physical pleasure. This phrase can be particularly effective when delivered with a moan or sigh of pleasure.
By focusing on the physical sensations, you’re making intimacy more pleasurable for both of you.
5) “I Can’t Get Enough of You” – Expressing Overwhelming Desire
This phrase conveys a sense of overwhelming desire and addiction. “I can’t get enough of you” lets your partner know that you find them irresistible and that you crave their presence.
It’s a powerful way to express your attraction and create a sense of excitement and anticipation. This phrase works because it taps into the primal desire for connection and intimacy.
It suggests that your partner’s presence is intoxicating and that you are completely captivated by them. Consider using this phrase when you want to convey the depth of your desire and create a sense of urgency.
6) “Don’t Stop” – Encouraging Continued Action
When something feels good, why not encourage more of it? “Don’t stop” is a simple yet effective phrase that lets your partner know that you are enjoying what they are doing and want them to continue.
It’s a clear and direct way to communicate your pleasure and guide your partner toward what feels good.
I remember once I was feeling insecure about my body image. My partner sensed that I was feeling down and did everything to show me love. We started being intimate, and he would make sure I felt beautiful by saying “Don’t stop, that feels incredible.”
It was exactly what I needed at that moment. It reassured me that I was desired and beautiful, which made intimacy feel more freeing. It also creates a sense of intimacy and connection by focusing on the shared experience of physical pleasure.
Make sure to use this phrase at the moment, and not after the moment, so your partner feels appreciated.
7) “You’re Mine” – Claiming Possession (Use with Caution)
This phrase can be incredibly arousing for some, while others may find it off-putting. “You’re mine” expresses a sense of possession and dominance, which can be thrilling for those who enjoy power dynamics.
However, it’s essential to use this phrase with caution and only if you know your partner enjoys it. It’s crucial to establish clear boundaries and ensure that both partners are comfortable with the level of dominance and submission being expressed.
Remember, consent is paramount, and this phrase should never be used in a way that feels coercive or disrespectful. A Liberator Wedge Pillow (affiliate link) can help you explore new positions while saying these powerful phrases.
8) “Bad Girl/Boy” – Embracing Playful Rebellion
This phrase taps into the thrill of playful rebellion and breaking the rules. “Bad girl/boy” can be a fun and arousing way to acknowledge your partner’s naughty behavior and encourage them to embrace their wild side.
It’s a playful way to create a sense of excitement and anticipation.
However, like the previous phrase, it’s important to use this phrase with caution and only if you know your partner enjoys it. It’s crucial to ensure that both partners are comfortable with the level of role-playing and that the phrase is used in a playful, consensual manner.
Don’t forget to use this phrase when you feel your partner is embracing their own wild side.
9) “I’m Going to…” – Anticipatory Teasing
“I’m going to…” creates anticipation and excitement by hinting at what you plan to do to your partner.
This phrase allows you to tease and tantalize, building anticipation and driving them wild with desire. It’s a powerful way to take control and guide the encounter in the direction you want.
For example, you could say, “I’m going to kiss you all over,” or “I’m going to make you scream my name.”
The key is to use your imagination and create vivid images in your partner’s mind. The power of anticipation is very real and can make intimacy so much better. Don’t forget that these phrases should work for both genders, and be said to one another.
To start, you can even practice in the mirror!
Conclusion
Incorporating sexy phrases to drive them wild can significantly elevate your intimate experiences.
It is more than just uttering provocative words; it’s about creating a deeper emotional and physical connection with your partner. These phrases, when used respectfully and enthusiastically, can unlock new levels of excitement and pleasure.
By expressing your desires, fantasies, and appreciation verbally, you make the bedroom more adventurous and fulfilling. Remember, confidence is key, so embrace the vulnerability and let your words ignite the passion.
It’s time to unleash your inner wordsmith, and watch as your relationship blooms with newfound intimacy and excitement.
Lila Anderson is an intimacy expert providing accessible and inclusive education on sexual health and relationships. Known for her engaging and down-to-earth approach, Lila has worked with individuals, schools, and community organizations to foster informed, open conversations. She wants to empower people with the knowledge they need to make confident, healthy decisions, and to create a world where everyone feels equipped to explore and understand their sexuality and relationships. Although she’s still in her 3rd year of practice, she has been well-loved by her friends and acquiantances for being so relatable and down to earth.
